商务英语专业毕业论文-On the Different Views of Family between Chinese Males and Northern European Males.docx

On the Different Views of Family between Chinese Males and Northern European Males 17On the Different Views of Family between Chinese Males and Northern European MalesI IntroductionFamily, as an important part of society, its stability and peace is directly related to social stability and national prosperity. After the mid-twentieth century, with the rapid development of economy in each country, all kinds of ideas changed quickly, cultural conflict become more and more serious. Therefore, its necessary for us to explore the family views. In addition, men play an important role in a family since the ancient time, they shoulder the responsibility to take care of a family, so they occupy the irreplaceable position in the study of family views. While, Compared to the five countries in Northern Europe, the happiness index of Chinese males falls far behind them with the development of economy, with most Chinese males not possessing the consciousness of happy family. In this thesis, I focus on the differences of family views between Chinese males and Northern European males. And I wish more people could pay attention to culture differences after reading this thesis.II The definition and importance of family viewsA. The definition of family viewsAny society is made up of many individuals, these individuals formed by groups again, and build strong relationships between the individual and the individual. Among these groups, the most robust social relations is family. There is no doubt that family is the foundation of any society .The view of family，it can be said as a viewpoint, attitude or belief for people to their family firm, and a standard to evaluate family meaning and purpose and ideal family, it affects the decision of personal family life and family affairs. Therefore，Any family relationship, marital relationship, parent-child relationship and other family matters are related to this view , attitudes and beliefs , all belong to the view of family .B. The importance of family views“Sow an idea and you will harvest a behavior；Sow a behavior and you will harvest a habit. ；Sow a habit and you will harvest a character；Sow a character and you will harvest a destiny.”Of course，there are some philosophy in it，The family view plays a leading role in the growth of family, it is very important for the character and life of families, even the development and formation of family. Some viewpoints will affect the openness of the foreign relations of a person , or even a person's life , safety and health and family happiness。III The different views of family between Chinese males and Northern European malesA. The cultivation of the children1. In ChinaIn China，child is always quite something in the family，doting phenomenon is everywhere. Nowadays，One-child family pattern is increasingly becoming mainstream. As a result, parents doted children very much, they are afraid of them melted in the mouth and hurt them if they hold them in their hands. Many family dont arrange a single room for their children until kindergarten, or even primary school, even let children try to dress themselves until they are more than 10-year-old.Besides, the tuition and pocket money all come from their parents, when they have money, they always use up. Therefore, children do not have the awareness of thrifty, even the truth of money is hard-won. Many Chinese parents always pay the cars and houses for their son or daughter. Nevertheless, they will ask their children to live with them to save rents and loans.The parents provide money to their children for university and children can still live with their parents even when they are at work. This is incredible in European countries. In China, people have strong family values. parents and children is always one family, theyll take care of each other forever. Even children have another family, they will still very intimate with their parents. They always consider supporting parents and serving parents as their own duty. If one family to go shopping in China, it is quite natural for parents to buy things for children or adult children pay for their parents. At the same time, Chinese people's traditional relationship is complementary, commonly referred to "all for one, one for all". In the underdeveloped economy era, the thought of " raising sons to support one in ones old age " reflects the complementary relationship between the family members. In modern China, most older in the city have pension for their life in old age. However, the extended family is far from disappeared. In the term of living condition, although some children have good living environment, they still want to live with their parents. Also, parents are willing to live together with their children and grandchildren, three generations of one family to share their happiness.2. In Northern EuropeIn Northern EIn Northern Europe，The cultivation of independence began in childhood，many parents arrange single room for their kids when they are one full year of life, for the purpose to allow them accustomed to their own little world. This can be regarded as the first step to personal independence. It is widespread to see the phenomenon of students to work-study, with the exception of funding to school or earning pocket money, the main purpose is to change the habits of everything dependent on their parents. Some go to the fast-food restaurants or gas stations; some choose to deliver the newspaper or take care of the children; some shovel snow or sweep away he dead leaves and so on. As the thought of parents, children earn money by their own hands can help them to realize the money hard-won and develop the awareness of self-reliance. If they want to buy car for their children, they will let children to do a past-time job to save money, and they assist them with sponsorship funds gradually, together with the children to buy three second-hand car, while the children need to use a car in college, they will put the three second-hand car into a good car, this is the way that Northern European males send the car to their children. Similarly, when kids want to get married , the parents will usually calculate how much money they own and how about their children, then they will joint venture to buy a piece of land and work together to build a new house. This is the basic mode of operation between parents and children.After 18 years old, children will earn life independently. Go to school or go to work，they prefer to rent a house rather than live with their parents. It is unimaginable for them to live with parents under the same roof, especially married children. The parents in Northern Europe never have the idea to leave children around to take care of them when theyre old. They encourage adult live independently and think that they should live outside if they married. In addition, if children share the dinner together with their parents，the waiter will be very natural to ask whether pay the bill separately. They conduct financial transactions with their own and noninterference with each other. In their opinion, having children is their own matter, parents have no obligation to be nanny.B. The attitude towards marriage1. In ChinaFamily is the basic unit of society, and marriage is the necessary condition for the formation of a complete family. Thousands of years of feudal society in China formed a set of traditional marriage and family view. And this view formed under the traditional cultural background always influence Chinese peoples life. In the book The book of rites, with justice , marriage is defined as, “Marriage is a ritual, it can make two different surnames, family befriend ancestral family temple on the comfort, but also to continue the family incense, and so, the gentleman to marriage as a major event.”From the famous Chinese ancient classic definition of marriage in the traditional Chinese culture, We can see the purpose of marriage is the continuation of family and ancestral worship. Traditionally, marriage is decided by parents in China, its not a personal affairs. China marriage is a family -centered, not individuals, nor society. Marriage holds more weight in family relationships rather than personal relationshipsSince ancient times, Chinese pay attention to “the order of the parents, the help of matchmaker,” In China, if their children to a trial marriage age, even if they have no love object, parents will arrange a marriage interview, let them cultivate their feelings after married. If they have some problems later, both of them tend to forgive each other in order to maintain the integrity of the family. In Chinese family view, the phenomenon of patriarchal status has always existed. In one family, the husband is the major source of economy while the wife is generally in a dependent position. 2. In Northern EuropeAs we know the marriage system of Denmark is almost on the verge of extinction. Its divorce rate is very high. Many young people prefer cohabitation to marriage. Even they decided to get married, just daily worn go to the marriage registration office. But it doesn't means Nordic play the life and ignore the family values.They are open for love, if they feel good each other, they will together, otherwise separated. But they are actually very careful in the marriage. Nordic treat marriage and love seriously, they do not want to be indulged any kind of unforgivable mistake of the marriage. If you do not feel deeply in love with each other, do not think you can live with someone a lifetime, even if 40, 50-year-old,they would not consider going to get married.。Males and females are independent in economy, there is no party attached to another party. Thus it becomes the main factor whether there has love in marriage. Love is the foundation of marriage, its immoral to get married without love.”Eric has a very good job，as a researcher in Software development division in one company, and he could be promoted to research director after half a year. While, at this time, his girlfriend Jan was sent to Hong Kong as a manager by Bank headquarters, this chance is most of her dream about being able to do. And for this opportunity Jan insists on learning Chinese for one hour everyday. What worries people most is that love without the marital relationship, can they withstand the test of separation? Eric smiled and said easily, “After two weeks, I will go to the company collar last month's salary.” Eric believe that although he had a good work, he didnt have a strong desire as Jan. So its the best choice for him to give up. Jan study hard to learn Chinese, she can do it! It does not exist the problem of the two separated, because it is not their consideration. Whats more, Eric enrolled against domestic violence training course initiatively. When talking about how to avoid domestic violence, his words became a lot. Also, he took expectant fathers courses, he afraid of not having such course when go abroad. He must learn it first for to give Jan the best care if she was pregnant. This is not special cases in Northern Europe. Danish men was educated to love women and respect for women from childhood. In their opinion, give a woman a void commitment merely made them feel uneasy, only to accompany them every second can make them feel at ease. C. The proportion of the family and the work1. In ChinaChinese males, as the mainstay of the family， it is natural responsibility for them to take care of his entire family. They work hard day and night just for earning more money to improve living standard.Four or five oclock at afternoon, at this moment, the CBD in China, office workers still hard to make an outstanding accomplishment and continue to eat a variety of convenience foods . Under unwritten culture of extra work in China, office building bright with electric lights at night and engage in social activities in dinner extend working hour in disguised form. People work 45 hours weekly on the average, according to the survey released by the United Nations International Labor Organization (ILO), the average working hours over 2200 hours last year in China, almost highest in the world. Such cost， make our rich entrap into the problem of “GDP and happiness.” In recent years, the happiness index and the ranking of happiness value launched by the countries all over the world, China is far behind wander around thirty or forty. 2. In Northern EuropeA word that Northern European males often mention is the quality of life. As the saying goes in Sweden, money can be saved, and time cannot be stored , how do you take the time to determine your life 's quality of life. The life full of house, cars and money or the life full of children , wife and garden, The Northern European males choose the latter for what they is the quality of life not the material. The man, who having nothing to do all day long or works from nine a.m to five p.m like a tight spring, becomes a rush hour flying man，which is the lifestyle that the Nordic cannot bear. In Northern Europe, people work 37 hours every week on average. The shop didnt open until 10, and all the shops closed at 6, rest on Sunday. Four or five oclock at afternoon, The Nordic people has been driving a car to the lake or the mountains, go boating or rock climbing. Looking ahead, there is no high-rise buildings in the Nordic countries, people wear casual, drive old cars, eat simple food. The street is so quiet after 7 in the evening everyday. Without feasting nightlife, there is no super-luxury consumer stimulate the human's nervous. Males live in this place, where are their happiness coming from？Finally it's the turn to travel, they have actually busy into the world trapeze, enjoying themselves with their families to their favorite country and interests in holiday. Nordic people are famous for traveling out, when summer holiday,they will go to the cottage or fly to everywhere. IV. The reasons that lead to the differencesA. Economic development1. Economic development level·China is a developing country, its GDP continued to increase from the reform and opening-up, The annual average growth rate reached up to 9.5% during the tenth five ye